Wedding are joyful occasions, the celebration of two people coming together as one to embark on a new chapter in their lives. Often however the build up to the big day can be fraught with tension- and not just for the bride! As a wedding guest you feel a tremendous responsibility to find that mythical thing- the perfect gift. But where do you start? Shopping for it quickly becomes a modern day epic, filled with a panic stricken internal dialogue- “What if they have it already?” “Ok, it’s available in 56,000 different colours… which one do I choose?”- or worse- “Ah! Perfect! His and Hers “I’M WITH STUPID>” T shirts!” When in doubt, it is always best to go with old faithful, the tried and tested method of buying something home related. Given that the newlyweds have probably just moved into their very own woefully unprepared love nest, choosing something for their home is your best bet for success. Ok, so what should choose? To ease guest related stress syndrome, below is a handy list of do’s and don’ts for choosing the perfect home related wedding gift.
1. Don’t guess when it comes to personal taste taste. It isn’t wise to make décor decisions for other people. Just because you think a pink polka dot duvet set is the height of sophistication, it doesn’t mean that Janet will… and you can be fairly that Steve won’t.
2. Do speak up. There is no harm in asking the couple if there is there is anything in particular that they need. Whilst surprises can be nice, shocks definitely aren’t. It’s much better to know that your gift is going to be valued than to hope.
3. Don’t go overboard. Remember, a thoughtful gesture that is personal to the recipient will be just as cherished as something that cost a fortune. A framed picture of a memorable occasion for instance will make for a lovely piece of wall art and help to turn a new house into a home.
4. Do buy with both people in mind. It sounds obvious but try to make sure that your gift doesn’t give clues as to where your loyalties lie!
5. Don’t throw away the receipt. I know you put a lot of thought into your present but it is wise to leave the receipt in the box. You would much rather that your loved ones swapped an unwanted item for something they can use rather than leave it to go to waste.
6. Do be practical. Functional items such as toasters, blenders, microwaves, kettles and coffee makers may seem a little drab to you, but they are probably exactly the sort of things that a young couple need.
7. Don’t go novelty. Novelty items for around the house are guaranteed to end up unopened and can give off the impression that you didn’t give your gift much thought.
8. Do compare notes. Asking other guests what they plan on buying will help avoid any embarrassment on the big day- just don’t let this lead to fights over who thought of what first!